Boundaries can be defined as the limits you set for yourself in various areas of your life to feel safe and respected. Setting boundaries is a healthy way to communicate your needs, which play a crucial role in safeguarding your mental well-being. Establishing boundaries means valuing yourself enough to define what is acceptable and respectful treatment from others. Prioritising your mental well-being by setting limits allows for reduced stress, improved relationships, high self esteem and an overall improved quality of life.
- Who are the people in you constantly interact with in your life (friends, family, acquaintances, colleagues)
- What are the behaviours, words and actions which you find acceptable or unacceptable
- Where do you draw the line in regards to your mental and emotional well being
- Why do you feel this way and think it is important to address
- How will you address this situation in a safe, calm and collective manner
3 Steps to set Boundaries
1. Identify Your limits: Think of the 4 Ws and 1 H when identifying what may be causing harm to you and your space
- Who are the people in you constantly interact with in your life (friends, family, acquaintances, colleagues)
- What are the behaviours, words and actions which you find acceptable or unacceptable
- Where do you draw the line in regards to your mental and emotional well being
- Why do you feel this way and think it is important to address
- How will you address this situation in a safe, calm and collective manner
2. Communicate Your Expectation: Set clear and concise expectations, while practising active listening as well. Use assertive language using “I” statement in your sentence such as
- “ I think”
- “ I need”
- “ I will not”
- “ I would like”
3. Maintain Your Boundary: Stay firm with where you stand, and understand that there is nothing wrong with saying no. Your boundaries are a reflection of your needs and priorities, and therefore you can disagree without feeling guilty.